I cry bullshit on Ernie Cline. This is crowd-pleasing mumbo jumbo in which this "nerd" is spewing things people wish they thought but can never actually think. Porn is not about idealism — that's what romance is for. Porn is about urges and finding an image in which to focus these urges then quickly forget once the urge passes. Every guy I know who admits to looking at porn will acknowledge that they see these women as blank slates — images to juxtapose whatever one wants upon.
Before I go on with my opinion, I suggest you read this "poetry".
Nerd Porn Auteur — Ernie Cline
Now I have a very good reason to call this bullshit. First off, there's lots of variety in porn. If you can think about it, it's already done. And if one wants intelligent commentary, there's a plethora of blogs floating about that focus on this subject. It's not that there's a dearth of "intelligent" porn out there.
But I also think he's probably lying when he says "that the sexiest thing is a woman who is smarter than you are". I say probably because what he probably means is "I like it when a woman makes me feel like an idiot" — which is not sexy at all. What is so sexy about a woman who makes you feel small and insignificant? Isn't the point of actual sex to find someone who cares enough to find pleasure with that most private part of yourself?
This, funny enough, is the difference between what a man expects of porn and what he expects of an actual woman. A man expects a woman to interact with him and not be a glossy figurine. He wants someone who moves with him, embraces him, and tells him she loves being near him. In other words, a man wants sex to be significant.
So Ernie Cline, I know this is bullshit. You are probably betting that the women hearing your "slam" don't look at porn. If you are a real nerd, you probably surf the internet and can actually find your supposed archetype of an "intelligent" woman. In fact, this archetype is quite popular — but the feminists don't quite care about that. You are too busy spewing nonsense to state what you really want.
Which is an honest woman who will actually relate to you.
3 comments:
Totally agreed here.
I disagree completely. This is insainly sexist, not all guys look at porn and see girls as "blank slates." I can't even get it up without there being romance involved, even if it's romance I make up in my head. "Hot" girls who are also bitches are less desirable than "Ugly" girls who are sweethearts (Sexualy and otherwise). That being said, the best girlfriends I've ever had have been nerds, girls I can relate to, play games with, have intelectual conversations with, and actually see myself spending the rest of my life with. Porn of some random blonde with fake boobs, and nothing but moaning noises doesn absolutely nothing for me... but show me an intellectual girl who'd be fun to be around, the kinda girl you'd actually want to spend time with, rather than just doing it because if you do you'll "get somewhere..." Hell she wouldn't even have to get naked and it'd do the trick for me. Would I prefer a relationship with such a girl, of course... but those kind of girls don't grow on trees... the good ones are always taken, and the single ones usually have issues. Nerd porn ties me over until I can find a real nerd, it keeps hope in my hopeless romantic head that there are still girls out there like that... and that I'm not just chasing dust in the wind.
P.S. The internet is a horrible way to meet nerd girls btw, Trust me I've tried. It's a little demented, but alot of girls will "pretend" they're more nerdy/intellectual then they actually are, just to get into a relationship. First of all, why someone would pretend to be something they're not to be loved is beyond me... because you wouldn't be loving them, you'd be loving their mask... Also, in "real life" when I meet a nerdy girl at college, Within a few minutes I can tell if she's being fake or not, by facial expressions, how excited they get, I can make a refferance and they can get it (rather than looking it up on google, like they would/could/often do online.)
P.S.S.
Tottaly forgot one thing. Wanting a girl that's smarter than you isn't about wanting to be the dumb person in the relationship. That'd be stupid. It's about having someone that always has something interesting to say. I love smart girls because they can hold up good conversations, and I learn something new every day. That's not to say that I'm "an idiot" to her, I'll always have something to say about matters.. Plus there is a difference in intellectual intellegence (IQ) emotional intellegence (EQ) and Street Smarts. The point isn't to get some sort of intellectual trophy, the point is to have someone that completes you, and you complete them. If true love exists so does that.